Dating. To start, you'd need a basic level of guts, but if you ask, nothing bad will happen so just ask. The dating itself; take it slow, no pressure, chill out. Just talk a bit, see if you have some "common ground". Of course, you would need to find the other physically attractive as well, or a relationship won't work.
Did the date go well? On the first date, you usually shouldn't really be kissing afterwards, unless there really is a spark. Again, no rushing, and try to see what the other wants. If there was some kind of click, you should definitely date some other time as well, and should propose this. Only when it gets serious, you should ask the parents for permission. We are not living in the 1200s or anything.
Hope i helped a bit by sharing my opinion!
I don't believe in kissing on the first date. It's too fast for my pace, not that I've really had the opportunity since I've not done that dating you're describing. Everyone has said something about dating before getting serious. I didn't with my current relationship.
I said earlier that we met and talked for about three weeks, I asked him to come to the county fair with me and my best friend and then the day we were supposed to go we were sitting in the bleachers in gym and he had his arm around me (We were just friends so that was kinda weird but we liked each other so I guess not totally weird) and a girl in front of us asked if we were dating and I said, "No, not unless he wants to." And then I glanced at him and he asked if I wanted to be his girlfriend.
Now I know this will sound odd but I asked him in response, "Why?" He sat there quietly (He told me later on that he felt extremely stupid for asking) and then I spurted out, "Yeah, I'll go out with you. Yes." I had never imagined a situation like that going the way it did. He just started smiling and we went to the fair that night and he met my mom and my stepdad and my best friend who threatened him. XD Now we've been dating for two years this September.
Wow, did you ever tell your parents this? They might be interested to know - I always talk to my mom, and ask her a lot about her previous dating experiences, how her parents acted towards each other/around her, etc because it helps me get a better understanding of her own personal beliefs and why she raised me the way she did. Plus I find it hilarious that nearly everything I have been through, my mom went through or worse.
(yes, I draw self-portraits =) )
I've told my mom about it, later after I figured it all out during that period when I was single and getting my thoughts straight about what I wanted. I wasn't ready for any kind of relationship. I was way too young but the media and other people in my school really confused me. I didn't have a model at home because my parents divorced and basically spit fire at each other and my mom was in I think four violent relationships afterwards so...I was kinda on my own. When I could talk to her, I would, but we're so different (Aside from the paranoia and mood swings) it's hard to get good advice from her that would work for me.
You're self portrait is very realistic and I love the shading and the angle. :3
I personally can't stand it. And that's relationships in general. My standards are set so terribly high that I usually judge a person the minute I converse with them for the first time. Not only that, I'm anti-social. I can't stand going out. I don't like being around people. Hell, I don't even have any friends to hang out with. So, I've resigned myself to being alone for the rest of my life. And good thing, dating, courtship, and an actual relationship just seems like too much damn work.
Relationships are a ton of work, as Goblin already stated, and I don't blame you for choosing to be alone. I do the same thing, judging people the first time I speak with them. It's sometimes a good thing to do that. It keeps me away from annoying and terrible people. You also mentioned being celibate, all I can say is that it keeps you safe from lots of things that having sexual relations opens you to such as unwanted pregnancy, STDs, and other health issues. Not to mention the heartache that comes with giving yourself to someone and then them leaving you. (That hasn't happened to me thank the gods.) And you said you don't have friends to hang out with, you technically hang out on here with friends don't you?
Honestly I just chill out with a girl for atleast a month. After that I'll ask her if she wants to date. If the answer is yes, we usually go to the mall. I usually bring like 30 dollars. The reason being, I have beem on dates where the girl is hungry and All I could afford is something she doesn't like. Or if she wants to buy a matching hoodie always pay for your self. Only let her pay if she really wants too.
Next date we go to Brusters. From there let her pick out anything. now be careful usually on the second she wants to do exciting stuff. but you have to be cool. After we're done I pretend to take her home. But I take a different street and go to the adventure landing. Get a pizza and talk some. After that play lazer tag and let her win the first time. Second time make sure to beat her.
From there I usually take her home and talk on the way. Take mental notes of what her Favorite colors are, favorite movies, things in common, what sport she plays/watches.
Now the 3rd date you do an exercise activity. Do what ever sport she plays. Like my Gf plays tennis so she taught me how to play L0L and let me tell you it was hard. After that take her home and get rest.
For the rest of the dates let her pick it out UNLESS she wants you to pick.
I am only 15 so this stuff might not work for older people IDK this is just what I did.
Oh and always be truthful.
I actually play argue with my boyfriend about paying for things when I can. He
never lets me pay unless he doesn't have any money. There isn't a lot to do in my town so he can't take me out all that much. There's the movies but that gets to be...routine in a way even though we don't go a whole lot. The skating rink here is only open when they decide not to be pricks about who the owner is, and the biggest shopping place here is Wal-Mart. Haha. So we hang out at each others houses enjoying each others company and having tickle wars. :3
As for you being 15, it makes no difference. I'm only two years older than you and I'm not seeking to date anyone. I was just curious how my view on dating differs from everyone else's. I'm really happy in my relationship.
