It is not that she does not, though. When I look at that scene, it makes it look like THEY are running the hold, not her. While I agree sending an entire legion is bad, sending someone to look into the cave, with no knowledge of what could be there, is just as bad. Best decision would have been to send a few soldiers or guards to watch the cave conly.
'They' do run the Hold. That is the job of the Court. The Jarl makes the final decision, but the Stewards run the operations of a Hold. Ulfric is the same, leaving the duties of the Hold in the care of his steward.
Best to send soldiers to watch a cave? With a war raging, you're going to send soldiers to watch a cave? She made the right call, assigning guards to the village. It keeps the village secure, and it also doesn't weaken the Holds defenses with Dragon's bridge being an important war location.
They send the player, because they merely suspect a few bandits or some creatures. Not an entire Necromancer coven.
And Balgruuf? HE bloody goes against his steward when you mention dragon at Helgen. Listening and making rational choices is good, but not outright agreeing with them just because the wizard said her scrying caught nothing.
There is a difference between dragons and things about the Hold. Court Wizards are there to counsel the Jarl with things to do with magic. What is the point of having a Court Wizard if you're not going to use them?
The Court wizard detected nothing strange about the cave. Just because
you don't trust her, doesn't mean the Jarl shouldn't.
Secondly, regardless of whether people like each other or not if there is a threat that is big enough that threatens their existence they will put their differences aside.
You'd think that wouldn't you. Except Skyrim managed to find the time to invade and attack House Redoran of Morrowind. During the Oblivion Crisis, no less. While all of Tamriel faced daedric invasion, threatening everyone's lives. Skyrim attacked their neighbor...
If the Dominion were to conquer Skyrim then all the other provinces would be in even more danger.
Skyrim is worthless. Cyrodiil is what the Thalmor want at the moment. They want the White-Gold Tower, they wish to establish a new merethic era, a Tamriel under Elven rule. They don't need to conquer Skyrim, yet. If they take Cyrodiil, nothing will stop them. The next Great War will most likely happen soon after the Civil War ends, with the death of Titus Mede II, the perfect time to strike is now for the Thalmor.
So regardless of whether Skyrim is independent or not it is in the best interest of the other nations of Tamriel to stand with them.
It's been the best interest of nations of Tamriel to defend themselves from Skyrim's short sightedness. From their warlike delusions. This isn't the first time Skyrim has rebelled against the Empire, won't be the last. Ulfric can unite the Holds, at least for awhile. The Nords will never agree, the Holds will just end up like they were before the Third Empire. Infighting.
Now I know there is the belief that an independent Skyrim being able to lead Tamriel is viewed as pipe dream. We can agree to disagree on that one. Who's to say that Skyrim does not have the resources to support themselves?
Skyrim has depended on the Empire for food and resources for over an era. Skyrim once was able to support itself, back when the Ysgramor Dynasty ruled as High Kings. Back when they had holdings in Morrowind, Cyrodiil, High Rock etc.
Farms struggle in Skyrim, you hear this from farmers. Only Rorikstead does well, but they can't feed an entire nation. Cyrodiil's and High Rock's farmlands were important.
No matter what side is victorious they will turn their attention towards regaining their strength and will use whatever resources they have available in achieving that goal. There are two things that bind the Nords together: their hatred of the Aldmeri Dominion and their traditions. They have a common goal at this point so I think there will be no infighting.
They've had a common goal since the days of the Five Hundred Companions. Never stopped infighting.
Plus Galmar in charge of keeping the Jarls in line and you know from playing the game he don't take no crap.
Galmar and Ulfric are aging. They will spend their entire lives rebuilding Skyrim. After their deaths, you're left with a province full of the traditions that destroyed the First Empire of the Nords. Challenge Jarls and Kings for their right to rule? Bandit Chiefs will take a field day with that.
Yes Ulfric is being used. He doesn't know that but does that make the cause he is fighting for less just.
What is his cause? Talos or the Throne of Skyrim. I see very little mention of Talos in the Stormcloak quest line, except black mailing another worshiper.
I wouldn't bet against a Nord. Like Galmar said they some tough son a bitches. Either way the Dominion is in for a fight. Skyrim will not go down without a fight. The Dominion may have defeated the Empire but it has not defeated Skyrim.
The Dominion has already defeated Skyrim. It has plunged into chaos and the Snow Tower has been deactivated. Skyrim's Nords will be rebuilding for a long time. Dragons and Civil war has taken Skyrim out of the picture. With the Snow Tower already gone, what is the point in attacking Skyrim. The Nords plan to leave the safety of their lands to invade the Dominion under Ulfric. If they're going by sea, they're dead. Going by land? Well magic fearing Nords stand no hope against the Aldmeri. Even Ysgramor's 500 had magic users and the best enchantments of the time on their weapons and armor.
But hey the Stormcloaks have already come far with so little, don't underestimate them. It would be a big mistake.
Indirect Thalmor aid. That is why they have come so far with so little, the rebellion would of been ended a long time ago if they weren't being aided by the Thalmor.