Anouck
Queen of Procrastination
Hey everyone,
I have a problem and I don't know how to deal with it. It's very important to me so I hope you guys can help me out. It's actually a long story; I hope I won't bore you
It all started with my cousin, who is the same age as me. Her parents, my aunt and uncle, were very young when she was born and they were not ready for a child. Because of that, they used to bring her to my grandparent's place. She basically lived there until she was 5.
After that her parents broke up. My uncle is a pathological liar and an impostor who got them in trouble. He left my aunt behind who had to take care of a child and all the financial problems her husband caused. She was, of course, furious. In order to take 'revenge' on my uncle, she broke contact with his family. My cousin never saw her father again. She also wasn't allowed to visit my grandparents anymore. That was quite an issue because my grandparents basically raised her until that point.
Years passed and I never saw my cousin again. 5 years ago I changed school and met her. She recognized me immediately while I had no idea who she was. When I found out it was my cousin I was so happy, but also a bit worried since we were going to the same school now. And that would mean that I was the only one who had contact with her. This caused a few problems:
But like I said, my cousin looks like her father. She makes up lies and gets herself in trouble. If she'd see my grandparents again she could mess up the whole family with lies about abuse and molestation. My grandparents are nearly 80, they can't handle that anymore. My cousin is also able to promise she will visit them every sunday but break contact right after the first visit. My grandparents got over their loss, as far as that was possible, but they couldn't handle such a disappointment again. It would kill them to loose their granddaughter a second time.
I also don't know what to do with the damn lies she keeps telling me. I don't want to be a part of that. Sadly most of the lies are about me and my family so it's hard not to get involved.
I hope the explanation makes sense. It's difficult to make you understand the situation since I don't even understand it myself. I hope you can help me though. Should I arrange something? What do I have to do with the side picking and what do I do about the lies she keeps spreading?
Thank you,
I have a problem and I don't know how to deal with it. It's very important to me so I hope you guys can help me out. It's actually a long story; I hope I won't bore you
It all started with my cousin, who is the same age as me. Her parents, my aunt and uncle, were very young when she was born and they were not ready for a child. Because of that, they used to bring her to my grandparent's place. She basically lived there until she was 5.
After that her parents broke up. My uncle is a pathological liar and an impostor who got them in trouble. He left my aunt behind who had to take care of a child and all the financial problems her husband caused. She was, of course, furious. In order to take 'revenge' on my uncle, she broke contact with his family. My cousin never saw her father again. She also wasn't allowed to visit my grandparents anymore. That was quite an issue because my grandparents basically raised her until that point.
Years passed and I never saw my cousin again. 5 years ago I changed school and met her. She recognized me immediately while I had no idea who she was. When I found out it was my cousin I was so happy, but also a bit worried since we were going to the same school now. And that would mean that I was the only one who had contact with her. This caused a few problems:
- I heard my aunts side of the story who, of course, expected I would pick her side. My father on the other hand expected me to pick 'our' side. He never approved what his brother did but also never forgave my aunt for keeping my cousin away from the family. In order to convince me both parties started to tell me things about the others. I heard so many things about my aunt and uncle I started to feel guilty for liking them.
- My cousin looks like her father. She is a pathological liar who tells terrible lies about the family. She once told everyone a family member abused her - which never happened. Everyone at school asked me about that and even though I didn't want to ruin her reputation I also didn't want to be a part of the lie. So I told everybody it wasn't true. You can imagine what an impact that had. I got dragged into her lies...
- My grandparents were very happy to hear we had contact again. They wanted to pick me up from school every day, obviously to catch a glimpse from my cousin. They think that the whole family drama is solved now and that I will 'restore the peace' by bringing them back together. They keep asking me how she is doing and I feel so sorry for them because I know how terribly they miss their granddaughter.
But like I said, my cousin looks like her father. She makes up lies and gets herself in trouble. If she'd see my grandparents again she could mess up the whole family with lies about abuse and molestation. My grandparents are nearly 80, they can't handle that anymore. My cousin is also able to promise she will visit them every sunday but break contact right after the first visit. My grandparents got over their loss, as far as that was possible, but they couldn't handle such a disappointment again. It would kill them to loose their granddaughter a second time.
I also don't know what to do with the damn lies she keeps telling me. I don't want to be a part of that. Sadly most of the lies are about me and my family so it's hard not to get involved.
I hope the explanation makes sense. It's difficult to make you understand the situation since I don't even understand it myself. I hope you can help me though. Should I arrange something? What do I have to do with the side picking and what do I do about the lies she keeps spreading?
Thank you,