Ok I can't tell if I currently have a bounty. My journal says I've had (have)? 2. But I may have found part of the problem. I went back to a previous save and checked, it said the same thing. So I re-did Silent Moons. I rode back... We come traipsing into the Bannered Mare to lots of shouting. Lydia, (thanks B!tch) runs in with Sword blazing. I take off. Ride around, kill some wolves etc. She doesnt follow me. ok cool... come back to the BM and shes standing there all contrite, and the corpse of Uthgerd the Unbroken is DOA. uhh...
So I'm betting that I have a price on my head NOW! I haven't gone to the Castle yet to collect the freaking Bounty because that Housecarl elf chick hates me too. Im sure they will try to kill me again.
This of course since I'm an idiot Noob, leads to yet another question... if you kill someone accidentally before you are supposed to have a related quest with them does it mess up the game? I rarely kill anyone except for bandits or outright aggressors. But I have stumbled ito some places and been attacked by people who are mentioned in later quests. And of course, its kill or be killed...