Ok guys so I just bought hearthfire and was buying iron from the skyforge when I saw Aela the huntress sitting there. I was shocked because she was my wife previously and she mysteriously disappeared mid-adventure. Scarier yet, she had all the things I gave her on the adventure I lost her! However, she had regular, unmarried dialogue. She had the bond of matrimony to prove it. Can hearthfire really do this? Can she be my wife again?