Karen
boop.
Or if you still live with your parents, when do you plan on moving out?
I'm spoiler-tagging my "quarter-life crisis", because it's kind of long and you don't have to read it, I just wanted to ask you guys the one question.
I'd really like to hear about your moving out experiences and stories. Might give me a better idea of what I want to do with my life, or motivate me to put more effort into being more independent.
I'm spoiler-tagging my "quarter-life crisis", because it's kind of long and you don't have to read it, I just wanted to ask you guys the one question.
I'm going to be 19 in June, and with each birthday I feel more and more pressure to grow up and be independent. I always thought I'd just naturally move out at 18 like everyone else, but that was stupid of me since I'd never done any actual planning, financial or otherwise.
My parents don't really like discussing this with me - they just kind of shut down the conversation every time I bring it up, and I think it's because I'm the youngest child and they just don't want me to leave. Ever. On several occasions my mother joked that I'm welcome to stay even after I get married, and I'm not even so sure it's a joke anymore, which frankly terrifies me. I love my parents and I know they love me too, I just want to be given the opportunity to grow up as well.
Their point of view in general is that it's kind of useless and unnecessary for me to get some menial part-time job and worry about paying bills when they can support me, and they just want me to focus on my studies. I think it's a valid point, but I just feel too old to still be relying on my parents for money and food and shelter. And for the people I know that are still living with their parents, they're studying to be super important people like doctors and lawyers, and I'm not, so I feel like I don't have an excuse to not support myself. I dread my birthday every year because I keep getting older and I don't feel any different from when I was like 15.
But anyway, that's enough about me. I hope I don't come across as too depressing, I've just been doing some thinking today and assessing my life, which doesn't make me feel too good, lol.
First world problems, right?
My parents don't really like discussing this with me - they just kind of shut down the conversation every time I bring it up, and I think it's because I'm the youngest child and they just don't want me to leave. Ever. On several occasions my mother joked that I'm welcome to stay even after I get married, and I'm not even so sure it's a joke anymore, which frankly terrifies me. I love my parents and I know they love me too, I just want to be given the opportunity to grow up as well.
Their point of view in general is that it's kind of useless and unnecessary for me to get some menial part-time job and worry about paying bills when they can support me, and they just want me to focus on my studies. I think it's a valid point, but I just feel too old to still be relying on my parents for money and food and shelter. And for the people I know that are still living with their parents, they're studying to be super important people like doctors and lawyers, and I'm not, so I feel like I don't have an excuse to not support myself. I dread my birthday every year because I keep getting older and I don't feel any different from when I was like 15.
But anyway, that's enough about me. I hope I don't come across as too depressing, I've just been doing some thinking today and assessing my life, which doesn't make me feel too good, lol.
First world problems, right?
I'd really like to hear about your moving out experiences and stories. Might give me a better idea of what I want to do with my life, or motivate me to put more effort into being more independent.