Greetings,
I am seeking counsel regarding my unhappy marriage.
My name is Tareth and I am a Dunmer archer and aspiring mage who recently wed another Dunmer, a merchant from the Gray Quarter in Windhelm. Our courtship was nothing special, I confess, but thinking we being two Dunmer here in Skyrim, our marriage would yield both of us some comfort regardless of how hot (or not) the "flame" between us burned.
I fear I was quite in error.
I noticed something was seriously wrong when immediately after our wedding, my new husband abruptly left the temple without discussing with me were we would live together. You see, while he has a shop in Windhelm with a modest if not cramp living quarter attached, I have a much more comfortable residence in Whiterun as well as a piece of property in Falkreath where I am currently building an even more lavish estate that I had hoped would eventually be our permanent residence. Yet, I had to travel back to Windhelm from Riften--by myself--to catch up with my new husband simply to ask him this very important question that he apparently had decided on his own. When I tried to discuss the matter with him, he was completely silent, leaving me to more or less assert my own choice--that we ought to at least spend our first nights together at my Falkreath estate to celebrate our new beginning together. He agreed, although is a somewhat patronizing way.
Once we were both at my our Falkreath estate, more problems arose. He appeared very disgruntled at my asking him to do any cooking, insisting that was something he ought to be asking me to do for him. I'm sorry but this is 4E 201 and I find that kind of attitude just a bit too old-fashioned, even for a Dunmer marriage.
Additionally, while he insisted that I was the only person in the world he found "worth loving" I could not help but notice that he behaved far more excited when I was leaving than when I would return home.
If this wasn't troubling enough, he refused to continue his merchant trade while staying at our Falkreath home and simply hung around the house doing nothing, not even pitching in with the building of the new wings or with the gardening. After a few days, I asked if he wanted to return to his shop in Windhelm, and he agreed with a simple "I'll see you when I see you" kind of response that left me feeling a confused mixture of sorrow and relief.
Now he's back in Windhelm and I'm in Falkreath continuing to finish the house. A mage friend of mine from Riften is staying with me, helping me with the acquiring of necessary building materials as well as assisting me in magic practice, and I am considering making this friend my estate steward. But I fear that, in my despair over the unhappy and lonely state of my new marriage, I am beginning to have deeper feelings for this friend, and I simply do not know what to do.
Please help.
Sincerely,
Tareth Farr
Lakeview Manor, Falkreath