I need advice about Women

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Raijin

A Mage that loves a Templar
I went to investigate a fatal car accident that was in a result of a criminal mischief close to house. I rode my bike near the crime scene to see what was going on. To my astonishment a former teacher of mine ,whom I had a real bad crush on back in High school years, was there... Not as a speculator, but as a COP! My heart nearly popped out of my chest cavity because she still looks hot even after the years went by. What makes her even hotter is the law enforcement uniform that she was wearing. I wanted to speak with her, but because under the circumstances I decided not to bother her, and allowed her to do her job.

I don't know if she sees me in that way, and not sure if anything will ever happen, but how can you start up a discussion to express my feelings to her? When it comes to opening up with women RL I severely suck at it. It explains why I'm still single at my age ;/
 

dunklunk

You seem a decent fellow. I hate to die.
Did she recognize you like you recognized her? What's the age gap between you two? Of course, there are more questions, but these should do for now.
 

Harc

Big Hog
Well. I have no clue. Teenage love and mature love are completely different things. I agree with Irvin though.
 

Brizzle Kicks

Welcome To The Underground
Confidence is the key I pulled my Mrs who was a nurse (I like women in uniform as well) looking after me when I got bottled as a bouncer. I made some small talk cracked some jokes made her laugh then asked her for her number to my surprise she gave it to me the rest is history as they say. If you already know the person it will be 100 times easier to strike up a conversation, talk about anything then go in for the kill just be confident if it works great if not there's plenty more fish in sea. I've been knocked back more times than I care to remember but I have also had my fair share of success if you do get knocked back don't let it get to you just brush it off and move on.
 

Hadean

Member
just ask her if she fancies using those cuffs out of work, hell man if that doesnt work as somebody else
 

Medea

The Shadow Queen
Start with friendly conversation. Most women hate it when a guy comes on too strong or when he is overly flirtatious. Just ask her how she's been. Maybe a little bit into the conversation say something witty like "Wow, you went from one underpaid, under-appreciated job to another." See if she would like to go out to dinner or for some coffee somewhere, not necessarily as a date, but just to catch up on things.

If she says yes, you can make your move then (at the restaurant/coffee shop), by being honest with her and telling her you always had a crush on her in high school. If she responds positively then you should have little trouble asking her out on a real date next time.
 

Raijin

A Mage that loves a Templar
Just talk to her. If she's not wearing a ring, invite her to lunch, or dinner. Go from there.

Just don't be over-eager.

I didn't notice if she was wearing a ring or not. Unfortunately I didn't get the opportunity to get her number, or if she was willing to give it to me.

Did she recognize you like you recognized her? What's the age gap between you two? Of course, there are more questions, but these should do for now.

I'm not entirely sure if she recognized me.Shes a lot older than I am, but shes not that old. She was my High schools gym teacher :D

She used to be your teacher? So I'm assuming she's older than you. Don't you find that at all awkward? I know I would.

That's correct... No I don't find it all that awkward. Student teachers relationships are happening quite frequently.

just ask her if she fancies using those cuffs out of work, hell man if that doesnt work as somebody else

LOL :) If I had the balls I'd be asking her much more than that :D I almost wanted to get arrested tonight by her, to feel her hands, and seeing her touch the cuffs gives me such an extra boost of oomph :D

Personally, I suggest staying very far away from women altogether.

It's easy to say that, but unfortunately sometimes I do have needs that I need to satisfy, and only a woman can do it for me :)
 

Monolith

The Progeny of Vikings
Good advice all around. I'd like to add my 2 cents. Women naturally gravitate towards confidence and masculine characteristics, not just physical but also mental ones. It is an unfortunate fact that from a purely evolutionary and biological perspective, women can afford to be more picky with their choice of mates than men, and indeed they are. If you're a woman, you don't need to be smart, witty, funny, educated, well-paid or anything else as long as you are reasonably pretty. And even if you're not, there's a lot you can compensate for with make-up. You WILL get attention from the opposite sex without having to put in any effort: of course, the quality of your suitors may not always match the quantity, but still.

However, I don't mean to bring down your spirits, as there is a silver lining behind every cloud. I myself have made a little empirical study on the matter, tried different things just to see what works and what doesn't. As mentioned above, coming on too strong and eager tends to kill your chances; you come across as creepy and desperate. Even if you're super handsome and extremely witty, if you come on too strong, most women will be flustered and intimidated. The key is the balance the female psyche, which can sometimes feel like walking on the edge of a razor, but eventually you'll get the hang of it. Act natural, make conversation, display wit and show that you're not afraid of her. It often helps to move things forward in increments: don't ask if she'd like to join you at your apartment right off the bat.. ask her out for coffee or something 'neutral' at first. And don't worry about her age: older women can be easier to deal with in many ways: they don't play as many games as young women do, they're more straightforward about their intentions and less prone to flaky behavior etc.

And most importantly, if you "fail", or perceive yourself as failing, don't beat yourself up over it. I myself had very little luck with women for a couple of months after my break-up in late August, even though I tried basically every approach and varied my strategy depending on the situation (i.e. less macho and more gentle approach for shy girls, a more confident "I don't give a fl*ff" approach for stuck-up looking ice queens). I did meet women, but I wasn't really into any of them and it never went past the point of meeting up for coffee. I started to get frustrated and altogether disillusioned with the opposite sex: it seemed that younger women were either too immature, flaky, scared or otherwise unapproachable, while all the women in my age bracket and attractive older women were taken, or they had too much baggage from previous relationships. But then all of a sudden the tide turned, and I had 3 hot women eating out of the palm of my hand.. figuratively speaking, of course :D One of them, a 30-year old pole dancer, was very apprehensive around me at first. I met her in a nightclub on New Year's eve, and that evening didn't go so well. But I managed to convince her to meet up with me again, which she did, and now's she's totally into me.

Anyways, this turned out to be a long ramble, but I hope you managed to pick out something useful :)
 

sticky runes

Well-Known Member
You could take up being a vigilante so that you end up bumping into each other while tracking down the same criminal. And wear a mask so that she doesn't know it's you right away - keep a bit of mystery between you. It'll be so romantic!
 

samgurl775

Cerberus Officer
I'm not entirely sure if she recognized me.Shes a lot older than I am, but shes not that old. She was my High schools gym teacher :D
Alright I'm really curious, how much older is a lot older? I dated someone that was 11 years older than me and the age difference was ultimately the reason we broke up - and it's generally more normal for the guy to be significantly older. If you really like her go for it, but the age difference might scare her off.
 

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