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Dave, The Quiet One.
There has been quite a few posts, especially of late, asking about who you can marry & who you can't marry.
So if you are wondering just how does one get married then I think you might find this guide helpful.
Obtaining the Amulet of Mara
The Amulet of Mara can be bought from Maramal for 200 Gold. He can be found at either the Bee and Barb or the Temple of Mara in Riften.
Can be found as random loot.
Can be found in a tent on a beach North of Dawnstar directly behind the Dawnstar Dark Brotherhood Sanctuary.
Can be found in a chest in Blackreach on the balcony of a Structure south of the Alftand Cathedral, there are 2 Falmer patrolling on it.
Can be looted from Kematu in Swindler's Den.
Can be looted from a Chest with a Master lock in Calcelmo's Tower, which is accessible during the Thieves Guild Quest: Hard Answers.
Received for completing The Book of Love Quest.
Marriage must still be discussed with Maramal before proposing, if the amulet is obtained without talking to him.
Proposing
Maramal must be spoken to about marriage in Skyrim before any dialog related to the Amulet of Mara shows up. The new dialogue is unlocked with certain NPCs if you are both wearing the amulet and have met the requirement relating to them, usually a quest. You can then express your wish to marry the person. Once that is done, you can speak to Maramal at the Temple of Mara about arranging the wedding.
Wedding Ceremony
The time to start a ceremony takes approximately 24 hours. Maramal alludes to the ceremony time being constrained between dawn and dusk, however the ceremony can happen at any given hour of the day. During the ceremony you have one last chance to change your mind to the marriage before the ceremony proceeds.
NPCs for whom the player has previously completed quests may appear at the wedding ceremony as guests.
If you miss the Wedding Ceremony, you can approach the intended partner and ask for another chance. Maramal will then agree to host another ceremony, the next day.
Married Life
After the Marriage, the partner will ask where you want to live, giving you the choice between the partner's house or in one of your homes.
The behavior of the spouse changes from the single character once married. Tone of voice and behavior changes, they often refer to the player as "love" or "dear" from that point on. However, if You marry one of your housecarls, they will sometimes refer to you as their Thane using subordinate dialogue.
If your spouse relocates to a different city from where they originated, to live in one of your houses, they may indicate that they wish to become a shop owner to keep occupied while the player is adventuring.
If you wish to relocate the spouse to a different home, (either another one of your houses or the spouse's own original home), this can be done so at any time via a dialogue option.
Once a day,you can ask your spouse to cook something for them. They will make a Homemade Meal that increases the regeneration of magicka, health, and stamina.
If you sleep in the house with their spouse, you will receive a temporary bonus called Lover's Comfort that boosts the rate of skill-learning by 15% for 8 hours. However, this bonus cannot be obtained if Lover Stone is activated, or if the Blood Ritual has been taken to become a Werewolf.
Note: Because partners act as vendors, you can buy and sell items from them. However, if they are asked to follow you, they will only sell you items from their inventory until you both part ways. Spouses only act as merchants in the marital home, meaning items cannot be sold to them in a dungeon, to reduce the carry weight, for instance.
Eligible Spouses
Females
Spouse - Race - Occupation - Location - Requirements
Aela the Huntress - Nord - Companion - Jorrvaskr, Whiterun. - Completion of The Companion's Quest Glory of the Dead.
Aeri - Nord - Lumberjack - Anga's Mill, The Pale - Chopping firewood for her.
Anwen - Redguard - Priestess - Temple of Dibella, Markarth. - Completion of the Temple Quest: The Heart of Dibella
Avrusa Sarethi - Dark Elf - Farmer - Sarethi Farm, The Rift.
Borghak the Steel Heart - Orc - Warrior - Mor Khazgur, The Reach. - Paying her dowry or convincing her to leave her home.
Brelyna Maryon - Dark Elf - Student - College of Winterhold, Winterhold - Completion of Brelyna's Practice.
Camilla Valerius - Imperial - Merchant - Riverwood Trader, Riverwood - Completion of The Golden Claw.
Dravynea the Stoneweaver - Dark Elf - Mage - Kynesgrove, Eastmarch. - Providing her with one Frost Salt.
Ghorza gra Bagol - Orc - Blacksmith - Blacksmith Shed, Markarth. - Providing her with The Last Scabbard of Akrash.
Gilfre - Imperial - Miller - Mixwater Mill, Eastmarch. - Working for her by chopping firewood.
Hillund – Nord – Warrior – Bujold’s Retreat / Thirsk Mead Hall - Complete Retaking Thirsk and collect 50 Riekling Spears for her.
Iona - Nord - Housecarl - Honeyside, Riften. - Becoming Thane of The Rift.
Jenassa - Dark Elf - Hireling - Drunken Huntsman, Whiterun. - Hiring her.
Jordis the Sword Maiden - Nord - Housecarl - Housecarl, Proudspire Manor, Solitude. - Becoming Thane of Solitude.
Lydia - Nord - Housecarl - Whiterun - Become Thane in Whiterun after killing first Dragon
Mjoll the Lioness - Nord - Adventurer Riften. - Retrieving her sword Grimsever from the Dwemer ruins of Mzinchaleft.
Morwen – Nord – Skaal – Skaal Village - Freeing the Skaal, After delivering her mothers amulet to Runil in Falkreath.
Muiri - Breton - Alchemist - The Hag’s Cure, Markarth. - Completion of Mourning Never Comes. NOTE: Both targets must be killed to gain Muiri's affection.
Njada Stone Arm - Nord - Companion - Jorrvaskr, Whiterun. - Completion of The Companion's Quest Glory of the Dead.
Orla - Nord - Priestess - Temple of Dibella, Markarth. - Completion of the Temple Quest: The Heart of Dibella
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Ria - Imperial - Companion - Jorrvaskr, Whiterun. - Completion of The Companion's Quest Glory of the Dead.
Senna - Breton - Priestess - Temple of Dibella, Markarth. - Completion of The Heart of Dibella.
Shahvee - Argonian - Dockworker - Argonian Assemblage, Windhelm. - Married by recovering the Amulet of Zenithar and returning it to her. NOTE: She may be killed in the Quest Blood on the Ice, so it is suggested that she is married before starting this quest.
Sylgja - Nord - Miner - Shor's Stone, The Rift. - Her satchel must be delivered to her father in Darkwater Crossing, then returned to her.
Taarie - Altmer - Solitude - Elisif the Fair must be visited while wearing the outfit she provides, before returning to her to tell her what happened.
Temba Wide-Arm - Nord - Miller - Ivarstead, The Rift. - 10 bear pelts must be given to her.
Uthgerd the Unbroken - Nord - Hireling - Found in her house in Whiterun. - She must be bested in a brawl battle.
Viola Giordano - Imperial - Busybody - Candlehearth Hall, Windhelm. - Revyn Sadri's favor must be started, but he must be ratted out to Viola.
Ysolda - Nord - Citizen - Open Market, Whiterun. - A Mammoth Tusk must be given to her.
Males
Spouse - Race - Occupation - Location - Requirements
Ainethach - Breton - Mine Owner - Karthwasten, The Reach.
Angrenor - Once-Honored Nord - Beggar - Candelhearth Hall, Windhelm. - He must be given a gold piece.
Argis the Bulwark - Nord - Housecarl - Vlindrel Hall, Markarth. - Becoming Thane of Markarth.
Athis - Dark Elf - Companion - Jorrvaskr Living Quarters, Whiterun. - Completion of The Companion's Quest Glory of the Dead.
Balimund - Nord - Blacksmith - The Scorched Hammer, Riften. - Must be given 10 Fire Salts.
Belrand - Nord - Hireling - The Winking Skeever, Solitude. - Must be hired.
Benor - Nord - Warrior - Morthal. - Winning a brawl against him.
Calder - Nord - Housecarl - Hjerim, Windhelm. - Becoming Thane of Eastmarch.
Cosnach - Breton - Drunk/Porter - Silver Blood Inn, Markarth. - Must be challenged to a brawl and bested.
Derkeethus - Argonian - Fisherman - Darkwater Crossing, Eastmarch. - Must be rescued.
Erik the Slayer - Nord - Barbarian - Frostfruit Inn, Rorikstead - Hiring him. Note: Sometimes the choice for marriage doesn't appears in the dialogues. It is a bug.
Farkas (Vilkas' Twin)- Nord - Companion - Jorrvaskr, Whiterun. - Completion of The Companion's Quest Glory of the Dead.
Filnjar - Nord - Blacksmith - Shor's Stone, The Rift. - Completion of the Quest Mine or Yours.
Gat gro-Shargakh - Orc - Miner - Left Hand Mine / Kolskeggr Mine, The Reach. - Completion of the favor to Pavo Attius to liberate Kolskeggr Mine.
Ghorbash the Iron Hand - Orc - Warrior - Burguk's Longhouse, Dushnikh Yal, The Reach - Pay his dowery or convince him to leave.
Halbarn Iron-Fur – Nord – Blacksmith - Bujold’s Retreat / Thirsk Mead Hall - Complete Retaking Thirsk and Halbarn's Supplies.
Marcurio - Imperial - Hireling - Bee and Barb, Riften. - Hiring him.
Moth gro-Bagol - Orc - Blacksmith - Understone Keep, Markarth.
Octieve San - Breton - Citizen - Solitude. Frequently found in and around the Winking Skeever. - Convincing the gamblers to let him off his debts
Omluag - Breton - Miner - Markath Smelter, Markarth. - Mulush must be talked to about the smelters.
Odfel - Nord - Miner - Shor's Stone.
Onmund - Nord - Student - The Hall of Attainment, College of Winterhold.
Pavo Attius - Imperial - Miner - Left Hand Mine / Kolskeggr Mine, The Reach. - Completion of his favor to liberate Kolskeggre Mine.
Perth - Breton - Miner - Soljund's Sinkhole, The Reach. - Clearing Soljund's Sinkhole of Draugr.
Quintus Navale - Imperial - Alchemist - The White Phial, Windhelm. - Completion of the Quest Repairing the Phial
Revyn Sadri - Dark Elf - Merchant - Sadri's Used Wares, Windhelm. - Bringing back stolen ring from shop's stock to Windhelm inhabitant
Roggi Knot-Beard - Nord - Miner - Steamscorch Mine, Kynesgrove Eastmarch.
Romlyn Dreth - Dark Elf - Meadery Worker - Black,Briar Meadery, Riften.
Scouts-Many-Marshes - Argonian - Dockworker - Argonian Assemblage in Windhelm. - Talking to Torbjorn Shatter-Shield about the Argonian dock workers.
Sondas Drenim - Dark Elf - Miner - Goldenrock Mine, Darkwater Crossing, Eastmarch.
Sorex Vinius - Imperial - Assistant Innkeeper - Winking Skeever, Solitude. - Delivering kegs of rum to Falk Firebeard at the Blue Palace.
Stenvar - Nord - Hireling - Candlehearth Hall, Windhelm. - Hiring him.
Torvar - Nord - Companion - Jorrvaskr, Whiterun. - Completion of The Companion's Quest Glory of the Dead.
Vilkas (Farkas' Twin) - Nord - Companion - Jorrvaskr, Whiterun.- Completion of The Companion's Quest Glory of the Dead.
Vorstag - Nord - Hireling - Silver Blood Inn, Markarth. - Hiring him
Wilhelm - Nord - Innkeeper - Vilemyr Inn, Ivarstead, The Rift. - Completion of the Dungeon Quest Wilhelm's Scream.
So if you are wondering just how does one get married then I think you might find this guide helpful.
Obtaining the Amulet of Mara
The Amulet of Mara can be bought from Maramal for 200 Gold. He can be found at either the Bee and Barb or the Temple of Mara in Riften.
Can be found as random loot.
Can be found in a tent on a beach North of Dawnstar directly behind the Dawnstar Dark Brotherhood Sanctuary.
Can be found in a chest in Blackreach on the balcony of a Structure south of the Alftand Cathedral, there are 2 Falmer patrolling on it.
Can be looted from Kematu in Swindler's Den.
Can be looted from a Chest with a Master lock in Calcelmo's Tower, which is accessible during the Thieves Guild Quest: Hard Answers.
Received for completing The Book of Love Quest.
Marriage must still be discussed with Maramal before proposing, if the amulet is obtained without talking to him.
Proposing
Maramal must be spoken to about marriage in Skyrim before any dialog related to the Amulet of Mara shows up. The new dialogue is unlocked with certain NPCs if you are both wearing the amulet and have met the requirement relating to them, usually a quest. You can then express your wish to marry the person. Once that is done, you can speak to Maramal at the Temple of Mara about arranging the wedding.
Wedding Ceremony
The time to start a ceremony takes approximately 24 hours. Maramal alludes to the ceremony time being constrained between dawn and dusk, however the ceremony can happen at any given hour of the day. During the ceremony you have one last chance to change your mind to the marriage before the ceremony proceeds.
NPCs for whom the player has previously completed quests may appear at the wedding ceremony as guests.
If you miss the Wedding Ceremony, you can approach the intended partner and ask for another chance. Maramal will then agree to host another ceremony, the next day.
Married Life
After the Marriage, the partner will ask where you want to live, giving you the choice between the partner's house or in one of your homes.
The behavior of the spouse changes from the single character once married. Tone of voice and behavior changes, they often refer to the player as "love" or "dear" from that point on. However, if You marry one of your housecarls, they will sometimes refer to you as their Thane using subordinate dialogue.
If your spouse relocates to a different city from where they originated, to live in one of your houses, they may indicate that they wish to become a shop owner to keep occupied while the player is adventuring.
If you wish to relocate the spouse to a different home, (either another one of your houses or the spouse's own original home), this can be done so at any time via a dialogue option.
Once a day,you can ask your spouse to cook something for them. They will make a Homemade Meal that increases the regeneration of magicka, health, and stamina.
If you sleep in the house with their spouse, you will receive a temporary bonus called Lover's Comfort that boosts the rate of skill-learning by 15% for 8 hours. However, this bonus cannot be obtained if Lover Stone is activated, or if the Blood Ritual has been taken to become a Werewolf.
Note: Because partners act as vendors, you can buy and sell items from them. However, if they are asked to follow you, they will only sell you items from their inventory until you both part ways. Spouses only act as merchants in the marital home, meaning items cannot be sold to them in a dungeon, to reduce the carry weight, for instance.
Eligible Spouses
Females
Spouse - Race - Occupation - Location - Requirements
Aela the Huntress - Nord - Companion - Jorrvaskr, Whiterun. - Completion of The Companion's Quest Glory of the Dead.
Aeri - Nord - Lumberjack - Anga's Mill, The Pale - Chopping firewood for her.
Anwen - Redguard - Priestess - Temple of Dibella, Markarth. - Completion of the Temple Quest: The Heart of Dibella
Avrusa Sarethi - Dark Elf - Farmer - Sarethi Farm, The Rift.
Borghak the Steel Heart - Orc - Warrior - Mor Khazgur, The Reach. - Paying her dowry or convincing her to leave her home.
Brelyna Maryon - Dark Elf - Student - College of Winterhold, Winterhold - Completion of Brelyna's Practice.
Camilla Valerius - Imperial - Merchant - Riverwood Trader, Riverwood - Completion of The Golden Claw.
Dravynea the Stoneweaver - Dark Elf - Mage - Kynesgrove, Eastmarch. - Providing her with one Frost Salt.
Ghorza gra Bagol - Orc - Blacksmith - Blacksmith Shed, Markarth. - Providing her with The Last Scabbard of Akrash.
Gilfre - Imperial - Miller - Mixwater Mill, Eastmarch. - Working for her by chopping firewood.
Hillund – Nord – Warrior – Bujold’s Retreat / Thirsk Mead Hall - Complete Retaking Thirsk and collect 50 Riekling Spears for her.
Iona - Nord - Housecarl - Honeyside, Riften. - Becoming Thane of The Rift.
Jenassa - Dark Elf - Hireling - Drunken Huntsman, Whiterun. - Hiring her.
Jordis the Sword Maiden - Nord - Housecarl - Housecarl, Proudspire Manor, Solitude. - Becoming Thane of Solitude.
Lydia - Nord - Housecarl - Whiterun - Become Thane in Whiterun after killing first Dragon
Mjoll the Lioness - Nord - Adventurer Riften. - Retrieving her sword Grimsever from the Dwemer ruins of Mzinchaleft.
Morwen – Nord – Skaal – Skaal Village - Freeing the Skaal, After delivering her mothers amulet to Runil in Falkreath.
Muiri - Breton - Alchemist - The Hag’s Cure, Markarth. - Completion of Mourning Never Comes. NOTE: Both targets must be killed to gain Muiri's affection.
Njada Stone Arm - Nord - Companion - Jorrvaskr, Whiterun. - Completion of The Companion's Quest Glory of the Dead.
Orla - Nord - Priestess - Temple of Dibella, Markarth. - Completion of the Temple Quest: The Heart of Dibella
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Ria - Imperial - Companion - Jorrvaskr, Whiterun. - Completion of The Companion's Quest Glory of the Dead.
Senna - Breton - Priestess - Temple of Dibella, Markarth. - Completion of The Heart of Dibella.
Shahvee - Argonian - Dockworker - Argonian Assemblage, Windhelm. - Married by recovering the Amulet of Zenithar and returning it to her. NOTE: She may be killed in the Quest Blood on the Ice, so it is suggested that she is married before starting this quest.
Sylgja - Nord - Miner - Shor's Stone, The Rift. - Her satchel must be delivered to her father in Darkwater Crossing, then returned to her.
Taarie - Altmer - Solitude - Elisif the Fair must be visited while wearing the outfit she provides, before returning to her to tell her what happened.
Temba Wide-Arm - Nord - Miller - Ivarstead, The Rift. - 10 bear pelts must be given to her.
Uthgerd the Unbroken - Nord - Hireling - Found in her house in Whiterun. - She must be bested in a brawl battle.
Viola Giordano - Imperial - Busybody - Candlehearth Hall, Windhelm. - Revyn Sadri's favor must be started, but he must be ratted out to Viola.
Ysolda - Nord - Citizen - Open Market, Whiterun. - A Mammoth Tusk must be given to her.
Males
Spouse - Race - Occupation - Location - Requirements
Ainethach - Breton - Mine Owner - Karthwasten, The Reach.
Angrenor - Once-Honored Nord - Beggar - Candelhearth Hall, Windhelm. - He must be given a gold piece.
Argis the Bulwark - Nord - Housecarl - Vlindrel Hall, Markarth. - Becoming Thane of Markarth.
Athis - Dark Elf - Companion - Jorrvaskr Living Quarters, Whiterun. - Completion of The Companion's Quest Glory of the Dead.
Balimund - Nord - Blacksmith - The Scorched Hammer, Riften. - Must be given 10 Fire Salts.
Belrand - Nord - Hireling - The Winking Skeever, Solitude. - Must be hired.
Benor - Nord - Warrior - Morthal. - Winning a brawl against him.
Calder - Nord - Housecarl - Hjerim, Windhelm. - Becoming Thane of Eastmarch.
Cosnach - Breton - Drunk/Porter - Silver Blood Inn, Markarth. - Must be challenged to a brawl and bested.
Derkeethus - Argonian - Fisherman - Darkwater Crossing, Eastmarch. - Must be rescued.
Erik the Slayer - Nord - Barbarian - Frostfruit Inn, Rorikstead - Hiring him. Note: Sometimes the choice for marriage doesn't appears in the dialogues. It is a bug.
Farkas (Vilkas' Twin)- Nord - Companion - Jorrvaskr, Whiterun. - Completion of The Companion's Quest Glory of the Dead.
Filnjar - Nord - Blacksmith - Shor's Stone, The Rift. - Completion of the Quest Mine or Yours.
Gat gro-Shargakh - Orc - Miner - Left Hand Mine / Kolskeggr Mine, The Reach. - Completion of the favor to Pavo Attius to liberate Kolskeggr Mine.
Ghorbash the Iron Hand - Orc - Warrior - Burguk's Longhouse, Dushnikh Yal, The Reach - Pay his dowery or convince him to leave.
Halbarn Iron-Fur – Nord – Blacksmith - Bujold’s Retreat / Thirsk Mead Hall - Complete Retaking Thirsk and Halbarn's Supplies.
Marcurio - Imperial - Hireling - Bee and Barb, Riften. - Hiring him.
Moth gro-Bagol - Orc - Blacksmith - Understone Keep, Markarth.
Octieve San - Breton - Citizen - Solitude. Frequently found in and around the Winking Skeever. - Convincing the gamblers to let him off his debts
Omluag - Breton - Miner - Markath Smelter, Markarth. - Mulush must be talked to about the smelters.
Odfel - Nord - Miner - Shor's Stone.
Onmund - Nord - Student - The Hall of Attainment, College of Winterhold.
Pavo Attius - Imperial - Miner - Left Hand Mine / Kolskeggr Mine, The Reach. - Completion of his favor to liberate Kolskeggre Mine.
Perth - Breton - Miner - Soljund's Sinkhole, The Reach. - Clearing Soljund's Sinkhole of Draugr.
Quintus Navale - Imperial - Alchemist - The White Phial, Windhelm. - Completion of the Quest Repairing the Phial
Revyn Sadri - Dark Elf - Merchant - Sadri's Used Wares, Windhelm. - Bringing back stolen ring from shop's stock to Windhelm inhabitant
Roggi Knot-Beard - Nord - Miner - Steamscorch Mine, Kynesgrove Eastmarch.
Romlyn Dreth - Dark Elf - Meadery Worker - Black,Briar Meadery, Riften.
Scouts-Many-Marshes - Argonian - Dockworker - Argonian Assemblage in Windhelm. - Talking to Torbjorn Shatter-Shield about the Argonian dock workers.
Sondas Drenim - Dark Elf - Miner - Goldenrock Mine, Darkwater Crossing, Eastmarch.
Sorex Vinius - Imperial - Assistant Innkeeper - Winking Skeever, Solitude. - Delivering kegs of rum to Falk Firebeard at the Blue Palace.
Stenvar - Nord - Hireling - Candlehearth Hall, Windhelm. - Hiring him.
Torvar - Nord - Companion - Jorrvaskr, Whiterun. - Completion of The Companion's Quest Glory of the Dead.
Vilkas (Farkas' Twin) - Nord - Companion - Jorrvaskr, Whiterun.- Completion of The Companion's Quest Glory of the Dead.
Vorstag - Nord - Hireling - Silver Blood Inn, Markarth. - Hiring him
Wilhelm - Nord - Innkeeper - Vilemyr Inn, Ivarstead, The Rift. - Completion of the Dungeon Quest Wilhelm's Scream.
Footnotes:
- I have been working on this Guide since December last year, over 12 characters & countless hours & countless mugs of coffee.
- I hope that I have covered it all & I would like to thank Bethesda again for supplying the information about Lydia & making it possible to marry Lydia with the 1.5 Patch.
- I would also like to thank one friend of mine in particular ( Damn She's Hot....lol ) that I had discussed writing this Guide with late last year and after much talking she were going to write this Guide instead of me & then forgetting about the whole thing. I waited & waited for it to happen while I wrote other Guides & Tutorials but this Guide never appeared.
- It's been a long tiring process loading & reloading saves & many sleepless nights while trying to complete this Guide. So I hope you all enjoy it....
