What kind of traits attract you in the opposite sex?

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Monolith

The Progeny of Vikings
As the title implies, I'm curious what kind of things you find attractive in the opposite sex (or your own, if that's your orientation).. sexually or otherwise :p What kind of physical traits spark your interest? What other attributes do you look for? And on the flipside, what kind of traits put you off?

Personally I am not terribly picky. I find beauty in many different types of women.. blondes, brunettes, redheads, dark girls, pale girls :) I like petite women, curvy women, athletic women and pretty much everything in between, apart from the extreme ends of the spectrum, i.e. holocaust survivor, hippo-esque or muscle-bound amazon with biceps thicker than my thighs :p ).

My preferences seem to fluctuate a lot on a daily basis. Some days I find myself checking out attractive older women more (older as in 30-40), being drawn to their straightforwardness, experience and confidence, which can be a problem in young women (older women in general are much easier to approach in my experience). Other times I may find myself eying younger women instead, admiring their youthful energy and prime physical qualities :D And of course beautiful women of my own age bracket. On the other hand, what puts me off is coldness and arrogance; if a woman exudes them, I will instantly lose interest, no matter how physically perfect she may seem. Women with an inflated sense of entitlement, a diva complex, if you will, often base that solely on their looks, which quite often are the result of applying make up with skill and choosing the right clothes. I often find that women who are exceptionally beautiful naturally come across as more warm, friendly and open. That is not to say I don't have eyes for artificial beauty, but a healthy balance is good, and it's always preferable if the woman's self-confidence and personality don't hinge on the 'mask' she is wearing or not wearing.
 

kyleekay

Well-Known Member
The biggest thing for me is confidence and a good sense of humor. My favorite physical traits are eyes and a nice smile. Guys don't necessarily have to be in phenomenal shape, either; I've dated guys ranging from tall and super thin to guys who have a bit of extra weight on them. Personality is the most important thing.

Oh, and a British accent doesn't hurt either. :p
 

Monolith

The Progeny of Vikings
It's funny you should mention it; I have a thing for black girls with British accents :p I have absolutely no idea why, but I am mesmerized every time I hear an attractive British-African girl speaking, which is rarely, unless you count what you hear on TV o_O
 

Irish

Thane of Solitude
Sense of humor is a big thing I look for, as well. Others I look for are those who are passionate and driven, sweet but not cheesy, and have good manners. Oh, and someone who doesn't mind staying in every once in a while...I don't want a barfly. :p Deal breakers are arrogance, rudeness, and lying. My favorite physical traits are eyes (especially dark brown!), good physical fitness (I'm not talking bodybuilder or anything, just someone who puts some effort into being healthy and in shape), and a nice smile.

Right on regarding British accents, kyleekay ! I especially like the Geordie accent, though I'm kind of biased. ;)
 

Docta Corvina

Well-Known Member
Intelligence, genuine humility, and a sense of humor are most important to me. Without those, you could look like James Purefoy and I wouldn't be sold. All of my life (since preschool, even), I've tended to go for the "class clowns", and some things never change. :p However, I also am drawn to complexity and the more reserved types. I empathize with them on many levels, and I appreciate the sensitivity. Not to say that goofballs can't be sensitive - I've dated men who were certainly both. I also highly appreciate the nerd/geek factor. I know it's almost become trite by now, but I am sincere when I say that a guy gets MAJOR points with me if he's into The Hobbit as much as I am.

As far as physical types I'm drawn to, dark hair is usually a common denominator. Dark hair and dark eyes on men are pretty much godly to me. Not to say that I don't occasionally become charmed by blonds or redheads, but it's most often the duskier ones who get my attention. Accents are sexy of course (Australian and Italian ones, FTW), but really, a voice regardless of its accent can be packed with fantastic amounts of sex appeal for me. As far as age, I tend to not go for men younger than myself. I am most often drawn to guys older than me, likely owing to the worldliness and wisdom they bear.

Sophistication, intelligence, humility, and humor - they're my must-haves.
 

Clau

The Fateless One
Middle aged Caucasian men with raspy voices and attractive irises.
 

KaitoGhost

Sea Sponge First Mate
Redheads have always been my favorite. Blue or green eyes, and curvy (no walking sticks, please).

Personality, I like "strong" women. Not a big fan of indecisiveness, or helplessness. Intelligence is a must. I don't care if you're the hottest girl on the planet, it won't work if I want to strangle you every time your mouth opens. Confidence is also important. Can't stand whiny women who are always worrying what others think about them.
 

Soloquendi

Pastor of Muppets
Money. She has to be rich enough to support me in the lifestyle to which I WISH to become accustomed. :D
 

Irish

Thane of Solitude
Forgot about intelligence - that's a must. However, I think I'd want a good balance of book smarts and common sense because in my experience, those two things aren't exactly mutually inclusive. ;)
 

Clau

The Fateless One
LOL, Clau, you're not in the retinal scanner industry by chance?

Nope, I just like to stare long enough to get lost in to their eyes. I have been reading romance novels as of late. :p
 

Adolf Stormcloak

My title's better than your title
Intelligent, a good sense of humor, confident, assertive(To an extent. I can't stand woman who are too afraid to say what they want for the fear I might make fun of them or think less of them. Drives meh insane D: ), and of course, a gamer! As for physical traits, imma sucker for girls with black hair, light pale skin, and blue eyes. I find green eyes to be absolutely beautiful too. I love Russian accents, English accents, and honestly just anything that isn't a bland Northerner accent. Traits that put me off are selfishness, lack of common sense, bigotry, and jealousy.(Once dated a girl who went off on me for talking to a female friend after a week of going out. It was horrible :eek:) As for age, as long as you're not totally far off from my own I don't care. Age is just a number to me, as I don't believe age has anything to do with how wise someone is or how mature they are. I've seen 40 year olds who act like they're 15, while 15 year olds who act like they're in their 30s.

So anyways, now that I have my dating resume set up, when do I meet my match?
 

Medea

The Shadow Queen
I like shy guys, and like most people have mentioned here, intelligence is also important. I enjoy being challenged intellectually. Looks aren't that important, but I'm not going to act like looks aren't completely unimportant either. People always have preferences. Like they say: "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". In that regard, looks really only matter to the person that's looking. Also, bad boys need not apply.

Girls have always been into me too. I guess being 5'10" and having the fashion sense of Sid Vicious helps with the same sex. A hopeful lesbian friend of mine called me a "chapstick" once and I had to look it up.
 

Monolith

The Progeny of Vikings
Forgot about intelligence - that's a must. However, I think I'd want a good balance of book smarts and common sense because in my experience, those two things aren't exactly mutually inclusive. ;)

I forgot to mention intelligence, too. I cannot connect with a woman if all she spouts is inane drivel about pop stars, fashion and other terribly superficial topics. I can discuss those things as well, or at least put up with others discussing them since I don't really follow fashion or commercial music trends myself, but only if the woman in question doesn't limit her interests to that area exclusively. There has to be some depth to her for me to find her interesting and feel like we're on the same wavelength.

Also forgot jealousy and possessiveness: those are two huge turn-offs, just like Adolf mentioned above. I can understand jealousy to an extent, but I've been subjected to its most brutal and excessive forms, especially in my last steady relationship, which lasted 2.5 years and ended in early September. I'm still kind of dealing with the trauma to be honest.
 

SherlockJones

I'm where you least expect me, THERE! no not there
If they can put up with me for more than 3 hours without wanting to murder me in the most excruciating way possible then that's good enough for me :)

My wife to be is going 5 years strong and we're getting married next year so she is either very determined or as as loopy as I am and just doesn't know it yet ^_^

To put that in a more serious context: Understanding, and compassion, they are the 2 most attractive things I find in ...well anybody really
 

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